Don't persuade people you don't need to persuade.

2019-02-25 - [People who don't need to be persuaded. - It's tautology-ish, but I thought Dare to write the obvious was important, so I wrote it. - I changed it to "don't try to convince people you don't need to convince." - A little less tautological. - natural And yet we often forget.

• When others have an opinion that differs from one's own, one often feels as if one has to convince them of it.

• Others are often "[People who don't need to be persuaded.

• If others have different opinions from you, it often "doesn't matter".

• If someone has an opinion that differs from yours, it does not mean that you have been denied the right to hold that opinion.

• There is no need to feel as if your existence is threatened and to be defensive.

  • Related: Dissent does not exist. / Not defensive in online discussions.

• Don't spend money on trying to convince people who don't matter.

  • The cost should be spent on persuading a very small percentage of "those who need to be persuaded".
  • What determines if someone needs to be persuaded or not?
  • It is whether or not the person's opinion will affect the probability and timing of achieving the Target that you want to achieve.

relevance - Do not persuade people who are not your intended target - Determine who to persuade - Not a customer.

2025-03-03

• When is persuasion necessary?

• It is whether the person's opinion will affect the probability of achieving the Target that you want to achieve and the timeframe for achieving it.

• It's when they have Rare resources that they need to achieve what they want to achieve, and they need you to provide it for them.
• I've been using the word "persuasion," but I think I'd have a broader perspective if I thought of it as "negotiations."
  • Not only by verbal persuasion, but also by exchanging resources that we can provide, or by pointing a weapon at them and threatening them.
    • Threatening to put up a weapon is an exchange for "safety"; it does not have to be you who threatens your safety; there is also "I will protect you from outside enemies." interchange format B.

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