I want to be considered important only by those who matter.

There are two ways to detail the desire to be thought of as important.

• A: Desire to be considered important by an unspecified number of people.
• B: Desire to be considered important by important people.
  • Only to those who matter."

Whether or not there is a gender difference in modern Japan, let's put it aside. In an environment where one boss monkey had dozens of female monkeys

• Male monkeys want to be the "boss monkey" that everyone thinks is important.
• Female monkeys want attention from important "boss monkeys". I think there was a gender difference that

relevance - I want to be noticed.

• Desire to be perceived as a larger-than-life figure.
• The desire to be perceived by others as a significant person.
• Desire to be told I'm great

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